Are you missing someone? Does longing make you feel overwhelmed?
Longing is a feeling we all experience sometimes. Yet, it holds a deeper meaning than just missing someone or something. Although we might perceive longing as a source of pain, it is a doorway to love, self-discovery, and inner transformation.
How does longing manifest itself?
Longing manifests in many ways, but most often as a pain inside, a feeling of lack, and unfulfillment. It can be a tightening in the heart, moments of reflection, and sometimes even feelings of sadness or melancholy. It is something we experience almost physically — as if there is a tight rope in the body that connects us to someone or something we are missing.
But it is an interesting observation that longing does not always have to be suffering. Sometimes it turns into something completely different — into anticipation, into excitement before a meeting, or into joy at the coming closeness. Instead of painful longing, there is a need for spiritual closeness, a desire for a hug that is not wrapped in sadness but in joy for what is to come.
What’s more, missing someone can sometimes be a mental program — a kind of pattern that we replay in our minds. It’s something that can be encoded in our consciousness, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be real.
When we begin to observe ourselves carefully, we notice that we sometimes fuel this feeling ourselves, as if we even intentionally enter this state. And yet, in reality, we are not missing anything — there is only love deep inside. The rest are only “threads to transformation” — a record that can be changed.
So longing can be both a source of pain and a guideline. It can point to our desires, but it can also remind us that we already have everything we need — because true love is never separate, it is always present.
Reasons for longing for someone who is gone
Longing for someone who is gone can take many forms – from deep pain to gradually finding peace. It all depends on whether that person is gone from this world or simply from our lives.
Longing for someone who has died
When we lose someone forever in a physical sense, we are accompanied by a strong sense of separation that almost “shakes” our interior. It’s natural as we were connected to that person, shared life together, and now there is emptiness. But the key is to shift the focus from pain to gratitude. So ask yourself, “What would I feel if there’s only gratitude left in me for the fact that this person was in my life?” This question can help change your perspective.
Gratitude has incredible power. Instead of focusing on what is lacking, it opens up space for peace and beautiful memories. Here’s an affirmation for longing for someone who has passed away: “Thank you for being in my life. I am grateful for the time together.” This affirmation is not just words, but a way to bring solace to your heart.
Longing for someone who has left after a breakup
Again, you need to be very grateful that this person was present in your life. Here’s an affirmation for longing for someone who has left after a breakup, or your love was unrequited: “I choose the light of the sun.”
A breakup, especially when you still have feelings for that person, can shake your world. It’s like an earthquake – suddenly, stable ground turns into chaos. That’s when it’s essential not to get stuck in the emptiness, but to turn to the light.
This affirmation reminds us that even after a storm, the sun comes out. It’s not about denying feelings, but about consciously choosing what brings warmth and healing.
How is longing created?
Longing often doesn’t appear suddenly – its roots go much deeper, often all the way back to childhood. It may stem from insufficient contact with a parent, especially with the mother, but also from the emotions that were present in the family. It’s a bit like an energetic imprint that we carry into adulthood.
Interestingly, it’s not just about how much time we actually spent with the parent, but also about the vibration we took from them. If there was longing, lack of closeness, or a certain kind of emptiness in the parents’ relationship, the child soaks it up like a sponge and perceives it as something natural.
This may explain why some people feel longing more often than others – they simply “learned” it before they were able to consciously understand it.
It’s fascinating that it’s not only our personal experiences, but also the emotions that our parents carried within themselves shape our feelings in adulthood. It can be said that longing doesn’t always come from us. Sometimes it’s just a pattern that we have adopted, but which we can transform.
What is the purpose of longing?
The purpose of longing, although it may seem difficult to grasp at first glance, is something absolutely beautiful – love without expectations. It is a feeling that does not need to possess, does not demand reciprocity, does not even require the physical presence of another person. It is love for the sake of experiencing it, for the joy it brings.
We often think that longing means lack – that we feel it because we are missing something. But is that really the case? We can long even for the feeling of love itself, and if that is so, instead of remaining in a state of lack, we can consciously transform it into fullness.
To fall in love with love itself, with its vibration, with what gives us the feeling of butterflies in the stomach – regardless of whether we have someone by our side or not.
It is this transformation of longing that makes life something more than just beautiful – it becomes a paradise of experiences. It is a state in which we do not love in order to receive something in return, but simply for the sake of experiencing love itself.
When we understand that love does not require possession or closeness, but can exist independently as pure, uplifting energy, then longing ceases to be a burden. It becomes a path to something greater – to feeling life to the fullest, with lightness and harmony.
Affirmation for longing
The best affirmation for longing is one that takes us to a different level of feeling — it doesn’t fight against longing, doesn’t deny it, but opens up space for something greater.
Close your eyes and feel it: “I take a breath of life.”
This sentence is like a key. Simple, yet powerful. Because feel what happens when you consciously take a breath of life. Is longing still squeezing you? Do you still feel a sense of lack? Or perhaps instead, fullness emerges, a sense of presence, here and now?
Longing is only the beginning of the journey. A start. But where does it lead? Towards divinity, towards discovering who you really are — a complete being, filled with light. You no longer need to wait to feel love, lightness, joy. All of this is already within you. It is just fullness and divinity within you.
This is not just an affirmation — it’s an invitation to a new state of being. Every inch of you is filled with light, is ready to sing — not because of longing, but because of love for yourself.
With this affirmation, you will be able to shift longing from a sense of lack to a state of wholeness and divine love.
