Do you feel empty inside?
Emptiness is a feeling that can overwhelm you, take away your joy, and make the world seem lose its colors. Today, we will take a closer look at this feeling – where it comes from, what causes it, and how we can reprogram it to feel the fullness of existence once again.
What is emptiness?
So what is emptiness really? In fact, it is a mental program – a pattern deeply rooted in our subconscious that shapes the way we perceive ourselves and life.
You think – “I feel empty, as if there is nothing inside me.” Because emptiness is such a feeling of lack – as if something within us is missing, as if we are an internally empty space that is not filled with anything.
It’s as if where something should be, there is a vast empty space where it feels like something is lacking, as if something significant is missing from our lives.
It’s simply such a strange, quiet void that makes everything seem dull. We may feel unfulfilled, numb, or lost, uncertain of what will bring us joy or meaning.
Emptiness can indeed be a state in which we feel no emotion, we have no motivation or even desires. This feeling can appear at various moments in life and have many causes.
Often, emptiness goes hand in hand with loneliness. When we don’t have a close person with whom we can share our thoughts and emotions, we may feel like we are “fading away” inside, as if we no longer have anything to offer ourselves or the world.
However, emptiness is not always due to loneliness alone. It can be the result of deeper experiences, such as loss of purpose, disappointment with life, or lack of meaning.
Interestingly enough, although emptiness is associated with something negative, it can also have its bright side. It can be a signal that the moment for change has come, that something in us is coming to an end, but at the same time, it makes room for something new.
In this sense, emptiness does not have to be a dead end but can be an invitation to discover what we really want to fill within ourselves and our lives.
What causes emptiness?
Emptiness can have a very strong impact on our lives and well-being. When it appears, it can make us lose the energy and drive to act. It’s when we no longer see the meaning in everyday things.
One of its effects is a lack of desire for life – not necessarily in a dramatic sense, but as a state in which nothing brings us joy, inspires us, or stimulates us to move. Things that once used to bring joy, now seem indifferent, and we may feel like mere observers of our lives rather than active participants in them.
Emptiness can also lead to depression – a feeling of heaviness, sadness, which does not necessarily have a clear cause, but prevents us from fully experiencing life. It may cause us to lose the ability to see the good around us – the beauty of nature, the warmth of other people, the small moments of happiness that are within reach but seem inaccessible.
What’s more, emptiness can make us lose sight of ourselves. We may not feel our inner self, our emotions, or even our existence in the full sense. It’s a bit like the state where we stop feeling “alive” on a spiritual or emotional level.
But even if emptiness seems like a difficult state, it can also be a signal that something important is missing in our lives – maybe closeness, maybe meaning, maybe a deeper connection with ourselves.
And while it may seem destructive at first glance, it can also become an impulse for change, for seeking what will bring us back to life and fulfill us.
How does the feeling of emptiness arise?
It is really fascinating how deeply rooted the feeling of emptiness is, and how much can come from our first experiences in life.
Emptiness does not come up suddenly. It often originates in the earliest years of our life, when as children we learn what closeness, security, and love are.
Psychological studies confirm that the bond between a child and a parent, especially in the first three years of life, is crucial for our later sense of self and the world. A child who is regularly hugged, carried, and feels the warmth of a parent builds within themselves a pattern of emotional security. This provides them with a foundation for creating healthy relationships in the future and the ability to feel self-worth.
But what happens when this is missing? What happens when a parent – consciously or unconsciously – is physically or emotionally absent? Then the child does not receive that pattern of closeness that they need. They do not know what it is like to be embraced, comforted, fully seen, and accepted. Instead of warmth, something else is born within them – emptiness.
Actually, it can be said that emptiness arises from the lack of contact, lack of closeness with the parent. It is the absence of the experience of unity and love, which may later manifest itself in adult life as difficulty in establishing deep relationships, a sense of loneliness, and even a struggle to feel joy.
This shows how important our first life experiences are. But it’s worth remembering that even if the emptiness was planted in us in childhood, it does not mean we have to live with it forever.
We can learn to rebuild that lost closeness – whether through self-work, therapy, relationships with other people, or even simply through awareness of this mechanism. Because if the emptiness was created by a lack of love and touch, it means that its cure may be to find these things again – within ourselves and in the world.
Affirmation for emptiness
When you experience emptiness, you may say to yourself: “I am the source of life within me.” And feel it.
By affirming yourself as the source of life, you are reminding yourself that you are not lacking. You are that source of life, fulfillment, energy, and meaning, because it’s not external, it comes from within you. So there’s no need to search for something external to complete you.
Just embrace your own inner richness, reconnect with your inner self, recognize that you are able to create your own joy, purpose, and strength. Understand that you are already whole and complete as you are, you already hold everything you need to feel whole and alive.
